Sometimes, you may feel very low. Nomatter how strong you may be at heart, there are times when you simply can’t think straight. Simply can’t gather yourself back. You feel irritated and want to run away anywhere, anyhow. You simply don’t know the solution, so you try to find an escape route. So, that’s when you think of suicide. Yes, whatever be the reason for your depression, but escape is the only reason for suicide. No matter how much they sympathize with the deceased, I personally believe that it was sheer cowardice!
- It will get better: It is only after the darkest hour of the night, after which light dawns upon the earth. The light will dawn upon you too, but for that, you need to make it through the darkest hour! You have to be patient enough and at the same time, courageous enough to realize that even the darkest hour has just 60 minutes. If you really try, you’ll find there’s no need to cry. Maybe it is not the situation,rather your approach to handle the situation that is making things go round. All you need is to relax, hold on, and think with a rational mind and trust me, it will get better!
- You are not just an individual, but a universe: The moment you were born, you were given an identity. You are the son/daughter, brother/sister, husband/wife, father/mother, friend, girlfriend/boyfriend, etc of someone. You are not just one devastated person but you are an entire universe, your identity is relative. How can you destroy it all by yourself? Who gave you that right? Remember you are not killing yourself, but a son/daughter, brother/sister, husband/wife, friend, girlfriend/boyfriend of someone else. How selfish of you to think so impulsively and selfishly!
- There are people who are fighting for life: Yes, unlike you there are the others who may be battling against a disease, a war, etc. They love their lives and even think about what would happen to their loved ones after they have gone! They’re fighting against death with all their might, and yet, death stands ardently to welcome them in their arms. And you, you who have a long, otherwise fruitful life ahead of you wishes to die! Why don’t you do one thing? Kindly donate your life to other such people and then die. Will you be able to do so? Obviously not. But then, you don’t have a legitimate right to die then, because it would be unfair with those people.
- Would you want to die a coward? Yes, your inaction is nothing but cowardice. You are simply so comfortable with that shitty now-nothing-can-be-done excuse, that you see tying a knot round your neck as an easy option than toiling hard. You think you can’t give up drinking? Did you ever take a step forward in that direction? Met such people who had actually conquered their addiction (oh yeah, they do exist)? Approached any organizations that help you in doing so? Seeked the help of your family? Oh no, you just assumed that you can’t quit it and therefore you must die. How can you declare yourself a failure even without fighting the battle?
- You can do it; there are reasons to live: First of all, be it quitting a bad habit, focussing on studies, rising from a failure, getting over a death of a loved one or a toxic relationship, know that you can do it. And you have to do it. There’s simply no way you can’t. All you need is to believe that you can because when you have made up a suicidal mind, the first obvious reason would be that now nothing can be done. Remember, you are greater than any of your mistakes. You deserve all the love in the world. The best moments of life still await you eagerly. Will you abandon and upset them just like that? Will you deny yourself all the love, care and self love?
I must say suicide is not a choice at all.It should be eliminated from our dictionary.
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Definitely! Thanks for reading my post 😊
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This is so thoughtful! It saddens me to think people would resort to this 😦 We need more happiness in this world!
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Definitely. More than happiness, one needs understanding!
Thanks for reading 😊
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Totally agree with your words so well articulated, Himanshi and why and for what people do this.
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Thanks a lot for reading and supporting!😊
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Welcome Himanshi
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Reblogged this on O LADO ESCURO DA LUA.
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Thanks a lot sir 😊
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Suicide is the result of a terrible mental disorder. Just like cancer takes people despite how hard they fight it, the same can be said for depression. Is a cancer patient a coward when they succumb to it? It is the same damned thing in essence.
I wonder if you have ever experienced very severe depression to be writing such a thing. My nephew was not a coward. It was a crisis what the disorder led him to do, but he did it not out of cowardice.
All of the people who have lost a loved one due to suicide have the right to be angered at their loved one being called such a nasty name!
I myself wrote a post with reasons to help deter suicide. I wrote it about three weeks before my nephew’s death. I hoped that would help some seriously ill people, and perhaps it could, but for some the disease is too severe. It is then the disease’s fault not the afflicted.
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I too completely understand your view point. I too have lost my loved ones like that. I’m sorry my post hurt your sentiments. Yes I have countered depression in my life, but it was not very serious because I recovered from it. But, if you think deeply, you will understand my point of view too. Cancer patients… When you talk about them, I’ve read a hundred stories in “The Chicken Soup for the Survivor’s Soul” about people who countered Cancer through the dint of their will power. Also, I’ve seen a real life example. Now when it comes to me calling them suicide, it is because I have often seen people just sympathizing and doing nothing for the person. Trust me, a devastated person hates any sympathy, that too a fake one. Also the post of my tone was meant to be tense because I want people to realize that it is not the way out! My own sister googled some such posts before attempting suicide. Thankfully it failed! Sorry again if my words were Curt, but you have to know that they cannot be taken back!
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I’m truly sorry for your loss, of course he wasn’t a coward. Such a shame.
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Very true words, well said and I totally agree with you ✌✌
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Thanks a lot for reading. I’m glad that you think the same. Thanks for so many likes and comments on my other posts 😊
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Yikes! It is so incredibly dangerous to call someone a “coward” for considering or completing suicide! Depression is not always something that can be persevered through like cancer – they cannot even be compared. Cancer takes over your body and you can’t even feel it – but depression eats away at your mind, heart, and soul, and you feel EVERY SECOND OF IT. They’re both horrific things to go through, but are not comparable. There are people with cancer without depression who have killed themselves from the pain and misery – are they weak and cowardly as well? Why are you assuming suicidal people haven’t sought help from multiple outlets before making such a decision? Suicide is in NO WAY rash or “impulsive” like you claim – some people fight the inclination for years or decades before they just can’t take it anymore.
Telling someone that they are “selfish” for succumbing to the demons that haunt them constantly is the exact opposite of how to help someone experiencing these thoughts. It’s inaccurate to generalize all suicides and say that they are all selfish and thoughtless – how do you explain my friend who drove all the way to the emergency room parking lot to shoot himself – just to ensure he was close to the hospital so he could donate his organs so others can live?
Shaming people by making them feel weak and lazy for feelings and thoughts they can’t control is sadly how this issue gets perpetuated. I KNOW you’re honestly trying to be helpful, you wouldn’t have spent so much time writing this otherwise, but I want you to know that if I was someone feeling suicidal who read this post looking for one last reason to change my mind – the aggressive name-calling, blaming, misconceptions, and shaming would only make things worse. I don’t think that was your intention.
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Yes it definitely wasn’t my intention. You may read my reply to another blogger ‘updownflight’ which is the same thing I want to say to you. Trust me, it is a tried and tested way that sympathizing and pitying someone just accelerates their tendencies because you are giving them the idea that yes your situation is pityable enough and I personally don’t have a solution of your problem. I’m sorry what happened with your friend and just dazed that a person with such a soft heart resorted to suicide. I ask you one question. Which problem in the world can’t be solved. Even depression can be treated as it was in my case, but for that the patient has to have a will power. Not having that will power is cowardice.
My cousin googled some such posts before attempting suicide, and she found some sympathizing posts! I thought it is better to
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Yes it definitely wasn’t my intention. You may read my reply to another blogger ‘updownflight’ which is the same thing I want to say to you. Trust me, it is a tried and tested way that sympathizing and pitying someone just accelerates their tendencies because you are giving them the idea that yes your situation is pityable enough and I personally don’t have a solution of your problem. I’m sorry what happened with your friend and just dazed that a person with such a soft heart resorted to suicide. I ask you one question. Which problem in the world can’t be solved. Even depression can be treated as it was in my case, but for that the patient has to have a will power. Not having that will power is cowardice.
My cousin googled some such posts before attempting suicide, and she found some sympathizing posts! Thankfully it failed.
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👏👏👏👏Himanshi! You definitely had to employ savagery to make your point. Maybe people will think with clearer minds now
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Hahahaha. Thank God that even one person understood the purpose of me resorting to savagery! I hope that too. Thanks for reading and supporting 😊
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Never ever consider suicide! Don’t give up on life. Life will not always be smiles and laughter, but it will not be always be tears and sadness. Life is precious and life is not easy to come by. BE STRONG!
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👌👍👏😉
P.s do you mind giving me your opinion on “an inevitable journey” please?
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Yes why not!
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the example of the darkest night is just awesome 🙂
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Oh thank you for reading it in detail 😊
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Thanks for sharing and writing on this serious issue because most of us suffers from this kind of feelings and by writing this you are actually giving positive boost to everyone who will read this👍
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Thanks a lot for reading and supporting this. I really wish it is of some help!
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Nice one.
Honestly, I was on that phase of my life recently. I was on the edge, then a sudden glimpse of my sanity knocked my brain, how can I be so selfish, leaving without a fight and being coward to face life. There are so much more things to be thankful for and to be happy, I deserve it, at least. BTW, i am re-blogging this on my site http://www.iamanexpat.com
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Love the courage you had. Cheers to a beautiful life ahead 😊
Thanks a lot for reblogging and supporting!
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i agree your thought
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Thanks for supporting!
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Can I share this
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Do you want to share it on any social media? If yes, then you can but make sure you share the original link of the post.
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Reblogged this on I Am An Expat.
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Thanks a lot 😊
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I lost a wonderful friend to suicide. He was not a coward. His depression became beyond help. To comment suicides are selfish and thoughtless demonstrates an inadequate understanding of the tragedy. You will do well to look at the incredible work of Dr Arthur Cassidy you’ll find him on any internet search. He has written extensively on teenage suicide and you may find his first hand finding do not relate to your essay. This is not a criticism. I would guide you understand this social problem is far more complex than believing there are reasons not to take ones life. It should be considered that a depressive could consider this attitude makes them more inadequate and could drive them deeper into despondency. Ian Timothy
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I’m sorry about what happened with your friend. I’m sorry that my post hurt you as well. But I’ve not written any thing just like that. There have been events which led me to write this. I have written on teenage suicides earlier
https://thecagedbirdsingsweb.wordpress.com/2017/07/06/lack-of-endurance-a-major-reason-for-teenage-suicides-2/
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You post did not hurt me at all. My observation is the subject is complex and there is not a specific answer to the problem many thanks for your response. Ian
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Yes I agree. The reasons vary from person to person and they can’t be categorised broadly!
Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts!
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Another reason I would give is whether the person contemplating suicide realizes it or not they’re absolutely precious and irreplaceable. ❤
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Yes absolutely 😊
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I appreciate your desire to help Himanshi, but I found this post tremendously insensitive actually. People who commit suicide are not cowards, also depression is a chemical imbalance, so people cannot just “take the good advice” or think “logically” about this when in that state. Penning a post like this was definitely an act of generosity, but the perspective and view you have expressed here on suicide is not.
Perhaps you should speak with a psychologist or someone in the mental health field for more information. And apologies if this offends, but if the wrong person finds this post it may be more harmful than helpful.
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There are always ups and downs in life, you will go through bad days but its just temporary.
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Yes… Everything is temporary except change.
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Sometimes your living with someone and they seems happy and normal but you never can tell what’s inside.
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Yeah… Depression seeps in slowly and slowly.
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I understand your angst and the emotion behind your words. Suicide is a horrible loss for those left behind.
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Exactly. And it’s not only a loss for the loved ones but also the person himself.
Thanks for reading and supporting 😊
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I think the main reason is that nobody will give you life back one more time. In this shape, form and with these particular people around you, with all your talents and drawbacks you are here only 1 time. 1 time exactly as you are. You will never get to repeat this step. Who knows how and when you are alive again and who you are then, but this action will be for ever and you will have to work on it during next lives if any.
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True that. You’ll never ever get that time again and that’s a solid reason enough! Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts 😊
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Life is admix of ups and down, those who want to have only ups only and desist from facing realities of life then things will move still more uphill. Suicide, in fact, is to escape or running from problems and earning still more problems by way of kukarma.
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I agree that it is an escape!
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“Remember, you are greater than any of your mistakes. You deserve all the love in the world.” woww what a wonderful impact to me hahaha . i deserve to be joy in my life and i deserve all the love in this world .
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Sure you do😊
Thanks a lot for reading and sharing your thoughts!
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Looking Forward to your next Post
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Yeah I am working on it
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Thanks for taking on a tough issue, it must have been tough to write. Sorry for your loss.
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Yeah! Thanks for reading 😊
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Reblogged this on प्रिYA RAठी.
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Thanks a lot Priya😊
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nice …………………Guiding and motivating lines. great job keepitup
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Thanks a lot. I’m glad that it was helpful 😊
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I see your many points here. But are people with a mental illness cowards? How about those who aren’t functioning in reality. Just like most things, I think it’s a bad idea to paint an entire group of people with the same brush. It was very well written though.
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No I didn’t say that the people with mental illness are cowards. I said that your inaction to do away with your problem is cowardice and also succumbing to it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😊
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when you “commit” suicide, thera are no reasons. Just peace. Silence. No one will suffer again. Ssssssiiiiilenceeeeeee
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It’s an easier path; a shortcut… Fighters don’t succumb. They fight and survive
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Never ever entertain the thought…
Thanks for sharing Himanshi!
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Yes sure.
You’re most welcome and thanks for supporting 😊
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This is so apt. I sincerely hope people give this a read once, before sinking in a hollow pool of nothing.
Precisely explained.
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Thanks a lot for reading and supporting. Many people disagreed
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Those who don’t want to leave the hands of their “demons” would undoubtedly disagree. The power lies in one’s own clenched fists, just demanding to let go.
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Exactly my point!
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