How often do you ask yourself, “Why do I waste so much time?” How often have you blamed yourself, called yourself names, told yourself that you mustn’t do it, instructed yourself, looked for people to help you out with videos or books, made plans to fit yourself in a routine, etc? But have you witnessed any change ever?The simple reason why you haven’t changed is because you did every single thing except for self-reflection!
Accept it or not, the reason why you find difficulty in utilising your time to the fullest is because it is in your behavior to celebrate escaping responsibility. When you have a deadline for something important, be it an exam, assignment, a competition or even a personally assigned goal, the first thing you do is count the days between now and the date of deadline and then rejoice upon knowing that you can relax for and waste this many days! You start thinking that if I start working in the last 3 months, 3 weeks or 5 days, I would easily be able to crush it. You’re choosing to waste your time right now and claiming that you would change and become so seriously involved in the future! How? Oh because you think so! This is completely bullshit. And let me tell you, you didn’t miscalculate, you cheated. You cheated yourself!
What are you wasting your time on? Sleeping? Roaming? Stalking girls/boys? Chatting? Playing video games? Stop being so confused regarding why do I waste my time and what is wrong with me? This is exactly where you need to check yourself! Ask yourself how (not why) do you waste your time? You need to study yourself to understand how your brain functions and responds to different situations. To break down the crime scene, where you escaped work and investigate the details of your action, because the answer is the evidence. When you have the evidence, you have the power to rectify it and change yourself.
- Stop relying on pressure to move you to work: This is what you have been doing all along. Procrastinating your work so that you have to meet your deadline under pressure. You immediately need to stop this. You should start doing things which are most obvious to do at that time and not the ones which lead you nowhere.
- Know your preferences: It is your life and so the choices must be yours too. Your teachers, parents, etc won’t be there everytime to push you or to guide you. It is you who has to take control of your life. You have to decide whether studying at the present moment or whether watching porn would be beneficial to you in the long term.
- Know that time never forgives: Yeah, it almost sounds like a cliché but it is as true and inevitable as death. This time which you are wasting so ardently will have its revenge. You wasted time. Further, time will waste you.
- It is not so difficult: It may seem to be difficult but once you enter the routine of not wasting your time, of not procrastinating things, you will find that things aren’t so difficult as they seem to be. If you really try, you’ll find there’s no need to cry! You’ll find that time is there for you to breathe, have fun, and live!