Lack of endurance: A major reason for teenage suicides?

Each day one hears the news of a teenager hanging or shooting him/her self to death. The major question here is that is it “the lack of endurance” that actuates the desire of self-destruction? Before proceeding, I would like the readers to not judge any one person’s perspective but to ‘think squarely’ about this matter.

The one person who dies, suddenly gains sympathy from everyone.  While reading such news, one obvious conclusion people draw is that the parents must have been harsh on the child. They must have forced the child under cut-throat competition, forcing him/her to top the exams. Or they might have been very strict. Or they must have compared the child to other children.

This is to the child, who shot him/her self down to death and ended a beautiful life ahead. If someone challenges you for a 100 m race, and you lose, or you see it likely that you’ll lose, do you find it logical or rational to jump into a well if you are defeated. The challenger might have a better agility than you. And if you start comparing yourself to someone, then you are insulting yourself- Bill Gates once said.

The second most obvious ‘fact’ (and not thought) which people generally presume is- there must be a girlfriend or boyfriend involved. The poor guy must’ve been cheated upon, or abandoned, by the person, whom he was promised ‘forever-and-always’.  Worse still, if it is girl-teen, then she must have been pregnant or raped.

This is to the teenager who didn’t think twice before tying a fatal knot around his/her neck and ending one hell of a glorious future so foolishly and abruptly. This is a world full of worldly bastards. Not all people you meet would be faithful or loyal to you; and, if humans won’t betray you, then neither would god…God has enough to do without. There is none such thing as ‘forever’ except ‘change’. Your ultimate motto should be ‘screw the people who screw my life’. Sometimes, being tit-for-tat helps! Also, if you were quite pure-hearted and selfless and were hurt very badly, so darling, it’s not you who is worthy of dying, but the person who cheated upon you.

The most important and the root of all possible reasons and explanations which trigger the suicidal tendencies of a teen is, A LOW SELF ESTEEM! Quite true that there are a lot of exigencies a teen has to handle- hormonal disturbances, love matters, study issues or stubbornness to prove one’s metal to others. The failure to do so may lead to a low self image. Maybe, the defoliation is of such intensity that is engulfs the teen as a whole and pushes him/her into depression. If it is a case of nuclear families, where both parents are working and they do not spend enough time with the child, he/she is bound to have drifted to a feeling of alienation. The apathy may cost his/her life. Dear parents/teachers, a teenager is the most vulnerable of all species. The most susceptible, sensitive, and tempting of all… in such a case, if he/she finds a bad company, it may influence him/her to unforeseen levels of self-destruction. Therefore, the teen needs a great deal of understanding and moral support. Let him/her choose his/her own career path. Motivate and council the child. Tell him/her that you have tons of love stored in your heart. Maybe, that’s the key which would force the teen to think twice before knocking himself to death.

And again to the hopeless teen… why do you have to be bothered about what people have to say about you? Why do you bother so much if you failed just once, twice or thrice…? You were not the first person. The world knows of people who’ve fallen seven times and got up eight times. Accept failure as another milestone towards success. Those who’ve ultimately succeeded in life were not all super talented, extraordinary, stardust material made people. They too were ordinary people with extraordinary strength of endurance.

When someone throws a stone at you, you always have 3 options. First is to throw it back where it came from. Cons of it maybe that next time you may be re-returned a bigger sized stone, which would overtake you. Second one maybe to keep stone all by yourself and sink into the grief of helplessness and hopelessness. Nah! That’s just not you! The third one is actually the key. Keep collecting all such stones. Build a huge wall out of it. Beyond the zenith… make it your abode. No more stones would ever bother you again. Yeah…you probably get the picture!

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43 thoughts on “Lack of endurance: A major reason for teenage suicides?

  1. This is a brilliant post, but applies way beyond just teens. Google the suicide rate for men above 45-50 years of age. Yes, they have low self esteem due to the fact they are out of work and their wives no longer value their existence due to their lack of contribution to their OWN existence. (I have not googled the suicide rate of women…sorry.) Regardless of my POV, you have hit the nail on the hit with your comments on suicide for both teens…and everyone else. Great writing! Keep it up!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts. I confined my post to teens only because right now I myself am a teen and can really connect to that age. But yes, cut throat competition and pressure is a reality for every age group. Like every other human emotion, this too can have a universal appeal.

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  2. People have to learn to persevere. This doesn’t apply apply to teenagers only but cuts across all ages. Life is God given and can’t be restored like a dying phone. We should find our true purpose and let the rest slip.

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  3. bahut hi achha post kiya hai apne lagatar samaj me is tarah ki ghatna badhti hi ja rahi hai ek waqt tha jab koi khudkhushi karta to pure shahar me pata chalta tha to sab hairan reh jate the ab ye waqt hai ki ab ye normal ho gaya hai par ise normal kahna galat hai

    isme ek line aisi hai jo hamesha main khud apne liye or dusro ke liye hamesha amal me lata hun or wah yah hai ki kabhi bhi khud ko dusro se ya dusro ko khud se compare na karna mujhe yah pasand nahi

    qki mera manna hai ki ham sab ek uniq identitiy ke hai sabse alag

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  4. More than mental strength, more than endurance; emotional stability is what I feel is needed. As you pointed out, teenage is when we are notoriously susceptible to emotions. We should learn to acknowledge, respect and control our emotions before the emotions get to our mind and control us. We need the experience of the entire spectrum of emotions, without any filters, during childhood but once adolescence hits, it becomes important to gain a bit of control over what and how we feel. Parents and teachers should take time to explain and teach this to the kids. Maybe constantly bombard them with this message till such time as they are utterly bored of the topic?
    Not just suicides, but violent and egoistic behaviours arise from the same emotional problem so it sure would be nice if we could find a solution

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    1. The tag line for my post was- “Endurance is not just the ability to bear a thing, but to turn it into glory!” Teachers and parents boring the hell out of a teen cannot be a solution. Moreover, at the teenage level, an individual is so vulnerable and susceptible that it is not easy to get the right facts inside his head. The fact is that you have to make a child emotionally strong so that come what may, he not only is able to face it, but come out with flying colours.

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      1. Excuse me kindly but I think boring the hell out of someone works. Especially when elders do It. Because in such situations we tend to form arguments and counter arguments regarding what is being lectured and in the process we think about the problem and form our own opinions and solutions. That is the key. Getting the teens to think about the problem and form their own opinions. Granted it is not an elegant solution, but it works. I think. Maybe.

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      2. Well, it may be the case with some people. Teens mostly are so adamant that they get frustated easily, especially when you keep on repeating something. Okay, no offences, but I am talking about the teens who are quite pissed off!
        Certainly what you say applies and varies from one individual to another… One may take it as an alarm, while the other may get pissed off!

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  5. Many May disagree with Me but I have always thought of suicide as a cowardly option. What ever is the problem won’t last for ever and no matter how hopeless the situation it will be a thing of the past soon .

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  6. I had my share of depression and stress as a teen (still do now at times) but the only thing I did is to forget my sorrows and keep looking ahead, yearning for the unknown. It’s the only thing that kept my spirits high. Loved your post. 🙂

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  7. The views expressed are very coherent. I believe that undue pressure will go only if the parents understands it and that can happen only if in School, not only parents teacher meet is scheduled regularly but also that regular sessions on parenting is given to the parents.

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  8. It is good to share your thoughts to help be a voice for those thinking of suicide… to turn around for, move toward, and/or desire more for = finding another way to choose to live on… Each one can be an overcomer and discover the purpose and hope for life to help others… Each person needs love… to know love and be known… You are loved, known, and can be known as a valuable treasure… Sometimes, we need someone to be there for us… to be encouraged… to realize you are not alone… I am here to listen, support, and pray with anyone who needs it… just let me know… I am a husband, a dad, a teacher, a pastor, a survivor of a suicide attempt, and an overcomer of: fear, doubt, low self-esteem, depression, loneliness, and mental illness
    https://suicidenotmyheart.wordpress.com

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